As with many things in life, usually we are much more capable of handling life’s
changes and situations if we are educated, supported, and cared for during those
times. Becoming a parent is a rite
of passage. Becoming pregnant
suddenly takes you out of the social sect of married couples with no children or
single with no children and places you in limbo (for the most part) until you
give birth and enter into a different social standing as a parent.
Many couples experience a myriad of emotions during these times. If they
are lucky enough to be surrounded by other couples who have made this journey
the transition tends to be much smoother; simply because it is socially
acceptable to be who they are becoming. Sometimes however, you are the
first of your kind in your social circle and this can leave you feeling
bewildered and a little left out.
You are no longer just like everyone you used to socialize with, and you
are not quite at the parent stage.
Limbo (as I like to call it) can be a confusing and frustrating
time. But fear not! Doulas can
help with this too! Doulas have the
ability to help you bridge the gap between pregnancy and parenthood.
Most of us have made this journey ourselves so we have our own lifes
experiences, but more importantly we are surrounded by a variety of social
circles and have a great understanding of the strength, patience, and love it
can take to enter into a new social standing. Doulas help women with fertility
questions, pregnancy concerns, birth options, and postpartum needs!
Doulas are a little like chameleons we have been educated in a variety of
aspects that concern new parents.
Not necessarily experts on everything, but experienced enough to offer
education and support to you during this life transition.
Sometime couples don’t recognize that the emotions they are experiencing
are related to the change that is taking place socially, and so those emotions
get misplaced on each other.
Having a doula that can help you discuss the difference in your social
standing now versus pre-pregnancy can help. She can help you figure out how to
maneuver, new social settings for parents, introduce you to social circles that
provide support and education and help you learn how to educate the people in
your current social circle to receive the new family you have become. Often if
you are feeling rejected by your current social group, it is simply because they
need a little education themselves. Don’t be afraid to talk about your
concerns on how parenthood will change your life, as my mentor always says;
“preparation time, is never wasted time!”
Prepare for who you are becoming, and ask your doula for help!
Article Written by, Jenny West / Every
Quote by, Dr. Christian Harfouche / International Miracle
Jenny is a dedicated christian wife and mother. That is now pursuing her passion for everything birth!
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